HW, If one fouled individual defined a whole group we would have a lot bigger problem on our hands. While there have certainly been some bad actors among those that serve at home, it seems obvious that far more are actually the best of us. No group, culture, or organisation is a monolith. Do you have any "misbehaved" in your group or family, do they represent all of you? In a way, the comment you made could be viewed hypocritically as bullying. When the worst bullies turn into violent abusers, who should intervene bad situations instead, or how? ....It can be rough out there no? Sometimes it takes a bit of force to check force.